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Am I being overly jealous?


dgna dearg dear gna Manay GINA de Venecia dear inang mahal

Dear Manay Gina,

My boyfriend told me that he received a Facebook message from an old female friend, wanting to reconnect with him. I know that this female friend was his former girl­friend. He said that we would both enjoy her friendship.

My first thought was that a woman doesn’t go searching out old boyfriends online to enjoy a friendship with him and his new girlfriend. I think it is obvious this woman is seeing if he might be avail­able to reconnect on a more personal level. My boyfriend says I am being overly jeal­ous. I think opening doors to past lovers is a bad idea. What is your advice?


Dear Mercy,

Developing a theory about why this person has contacted your boyfriend doesn’t mean you are jealous; it merely means you are an attentive woman who is able to understand the obvious.

I agree that opening doors to past lovers places your current relationship at risk. Why? Your boyfriend might be tempted to fall in love with the memories, when love was raw and new. When this happens, he should remind him­self that his feelings may not actu­ally be based on current realities. In the first place, who they were is not who they are today. People change and they are never going to live up to our romantic ideals that exist in our fantasies.

He did the right thing to share this with you, but he can’t con­trol how you react to it. Given the givens, you should be open to meeting her but skeptical if he chooses to revive contact privately.

With affection,

Manay Gina

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