THERE were probably periods in a person’s life when he became competitive. One reason could be a parent’s demand when he was a child to become no. 1 in academics or extracurricular activities – and to never allow anyone to beat him. Another reason could be the confidence he gets when he wins or gets recognized. Third is a parent or authority’s remark that the child or his status is better than another child’s – and that the condition must remain.
Imagine the pressure and lack of satisfaction on the part of a child whose parent has too much demands! If he just compares and competes, he might fail to appreciate himself and his self-worth. He will not see his blessings, therefore he will not feel real happiness. He will even resent whatever blessing and achievement other people enjoy because he sees them as competitors.
This may persist until adulthood, unless the child receives proper modeling, motivation and guidance.
There are positive effects on children when they receive emotional support, when they are taught how to cope with losses and disappointments, and when they are assured that they are more important than any competition.
What have parents and authorities modeled to you? Do you give more importance to competition or cooperation? Are you happy when other people are blessed and successful? What do young people see in you?
