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Vanilla friendship

Dear Manay Gina,

Gina De VeneciaMy work is quite difficult. It involves working for almost twelve hours a day, and it also requires working with practically the same people. These past four months, I have been working with a wonderful guy. We have so many things in common and his companionship makes my work lighter and more bearable.

The problem is: I feel that I am developing more than platonic feelings for him. But at the same time, I’m afraid of pushing what some would say is a good friendship any further than it already is. I’ve already tried dropping hints with no success. I’m also wondering if he’d be able to handle the truth that I have intense feelings for him. I’m reaching that point where I have to do something or I will go insane. Any suggestions?


Dear Melay,

You say you have dropped hints with no results, so that may be your answer.

Because of your feelings that a plain vanilla friendship would be painful, here’s a two-part “solution.” First, have a heart-to-heart, and reveal your deeper feelings. If there is no positive response, then suggest that, for your mental health, it’s better for you to cool whatever “relationship” you have. Wondering and not knowing is as painful as being rejected.

Manay Gina

“Crazy people don’t sit around wondering if they’re nuts.” – Jake Gyllenhaal

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