Dear Manay Gina,
I just found out that I’m pregnant. When I told my husband about it, he was upset. He said the timing is bad, it would interfere with current priorities, and there’s no way we can afford an addition to our two boys.
What should I do? Am I being unreasonable for wanting to have a baby even though we are struggling financially?
Having the baby may alter your future significantly especially because you are not married to this man. If things are rocky now, an addition to the family will not improve the situation. From your letter, it sounds as if another baby would almost certainly make him an unwilling partner.
By all means, keep the baby and get ready to face an additional responsibility with or without his help. An important element to ensure success is to have a number of people around who will support you, like your family and well-meaning friends. And when you are able, try to find job that will provide security for you and the baby.
Another equally courageous choice is to give the baby up for adoption. There are thousands of loving, God-fearing couples longing to adopt a baby. They have the resources and the emotional and spiritual stability to raise a child. These potential parents always appreciate the sacrifice a birth mother makes when she gives up her baby for adoption. There are reputable agencies that handle these adoptions and do it with the baby’s best interest in mind.
“Mother is the name for God in the lips and hearts of little children.“ William Makepeace Thackeray
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