Dear Manay Gina,
In the past, all of my relationships were with the so-called ‘bad’ boys. As expected, they treated me badly. After some time, I finally found a man who treated me like a queen. He’s kind and nice. The trouble is, I just wasn’t attracted to him anymore, and things became very boring very quickly.
My question is: Is there a way I can change my luck so that I can find someone who I like and who is also nice?
It does appear that there is something exciting and attractive to you about these ‘bad’ boys, which is why you keep ending up in relationships with them. And when you found someone that was nice, you were bored.
Before getting involved in another relationship, I suggest that you take your time to figure out if this is someone that you can see a future with. Do not try to figure out if this is someone you might like now, might be attracted to now. For now is temporary. What is essential is that you look for the component that will attract you to this person 50 years from now. And while “nice” may not be the most exciting quality, it is certainly one that you want in the person you are looking to spend your life with.
Good luck. May you find someone who recognizes who you are and treats you as you deserve.
“Real love stories never have endings”. — Richard Bach
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