Dear Manay Gina,
I and my boyfriend are both in our mid-30s. My issue with him is that, he’s not a go-getter and does not want to better himself in any way. We are both professionals but while I hold a high position, he maintains his regular job. In other words, I earn more than he does. I love this man but I don’t feel he’s willing to work for us to have something better. I would love to be a regular mom someday, but if he isn’t earning well, how am I going to have the dream married life that I want? Am I too late to change this around? If not, what to I do to change the situation?
Financial problems can be fixed. Character flaws aren’t so easy. Sit down with your man and go over your ideas line by line. That will serve as the perfect time to stress that he needs to work more, to get things done.
Now, If problems persists, you’ve got some compatibility issues to think about. Plain truth is, you can’t force him to make changes – he’ll need to do that on his own. To help, you can discuss options with him and support him in making strong choices.
If he will refuse to cooperate, you need to do some soul-searching. Just know that if both partners do not have their independence and self-esteem, it will be tough for the relationship to be successful.
“Knowledge will give you power, but character, respect.” — Bruce Lee
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