Dear Manay Gina,
My husband and I have been married for six years. When he got his inheritance, he decided that he doesn’t want to be married anymore, but still wants us to live together.
The problem is, I love this man and I intend to spend the rest of my life with him. I just don’t understand what he thinks will be different if we are not married. He said that I’m the one who is throwing this away if I won’t follow him. I told him, he gave me no choice. I don’t want to go back to living together but not married.
We all have an inner guide that tells us what to do. I know yours is telling you that his new arrangement won’t work. You need to follow your guide and not his. I think he knows that if he just asks for a separation without giving you any hope of staying together, you may go after his newly acquired assets. He probably wants to give you just enough hope so that you don’t cost him anything in a separation settlement.
My advice is to go to a lawyer immediately and see what you are entitled to receive. I think you will see that he is asking you to agree to a very one-sided arrangement where he has only his own best interests at heart.
“Sometimes it is the person closest to us who must travel the furthest distance to be our friend.” — Robert Brault
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